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Our “It’s All About Me” Communication

Our “It’s All About Me” Communication 2048 1536 Jason Stadtlander

Humans are very selfish creatures; this is not exactly something new. My good friend Doug Obey wrote in his book “Money and the Human Condition” that capitalism works so well because it harnesses our selfish nature to better our society. As hard is it is to accept, this statement is true.

It is my personal belief that as our technological society advances, our selfish nature is showing itself more and more and there are far too many tools to help us become even more selfish.

It’s About Them

Typically, when I go to text someone, especially someone I communicate with regularly – I tend to (want to) blurt out whatever my question is. I am trying to change this etiquette to embrace a more altruistic perspective. For example, instead of just stating the first thing that is on MY mind “How do I get this to work?”, I try to preface it with “Hello [name], how are you? I hope all is well.” THEN I add my inquiry.

The very nature of email and text allows us to be much more informal than we otherwise might intend to be in a professional environment. And yes, I know what you’re going to say “But if I’m just texting my brother a question, why ask how he is?” etc. The answer; For the simple reason that it is more important to put their needs before yours. From a selfish point of view, being unselfish begets what you want faster. Seeing someone ask how you or stating their hopes for your well being before they ask you a question is more likely to grab your attention than an intrusive question that you would prefer to get back to later. Keep in mind, we send texts and emails because we know they are less invasive, but the fact is, someone is stopping whatever they are doing – even if for only a moment, to give you the attention you are asking. So we need to respect that time that they are taking and begin by asking how they are.

Pause Before You Send

Even when you do not intend to be self-centered, it’s easy to quickly type up something and hit that send button – only to wish you had waited and formulated your thoughts better.
Most email programs have the ability for you to set up a “delay” of a minute or so (which I have implemented on my emails). This delay allows you to reconsider what you sent, go back to your “outbox” and check that the email is worded in a way that will accomplish what you are trying to convey without offending. Unfortunately, you cannot do this with texts. So I urge you (and me) to stop before hitting that send, read through what you have written – it only takes a few extra seconds, and consider how it will be perceived from the other end.

Twisted Thursday – The Candy Crush Zombie

Twisted Thursday – The Candy Crush Zombie 150 150 Jason Stadtlander

Stepping onto the train and walking down the aisle, I pass person after person trying to get their green candies to line up . . . trying to break the chocolate or hoping for those sprinkle candies. Everywhere I look – on Kindles, on iPads on Andoids and on Laptops – it’s everywhere! How on earth could people be so infatuated with this game?! I wonder, exasperated, then lift up my iPhone and begin to tackle Level 53 – freaking Jellies!

Candy CrushFor those who have no idea what I’m talking about, Candy Crush is one of the latest insane fads on Facebook and a few other social websites. It also has apps you can download on iTunes, Droid store and more. It’s basically a sweetly-modified version of Bejeweled and no . . . it’s not related to PopCap Games (the makers of Bejeweled, Plants v. Zombies and Peggle). Candy Crush is made by a company called King Games, and they have done a great job harnessing the social game aspect of it.

Candy Crush is a great game, but it’s also two other things; a tremendous waste of time (nice sometimes, bad at others) but also a tremendous money waster. Admit it, you too have gone, “Yeah, why not . . . it’s only 99 cents for a few of those ‘Smash a candy’ suckers.” Cheater! Oh, that’s right . . . that was me.

All joking aside, Candy Crush has two alluring parts to it:

1. It allows you to do something on your own that’s fun and brainless.

2. It allows you to help and get help from friends (in fact, you must get help with some levels).

You have to wonder though, what is it about the game that makes it so popular? It boils down to one simple word: “viral.” The entire concept of the game, by default, causes you to brag to your friends that you completed a level, and you get additional “goodies” simply for inviting more people to play. Then they get more goodies for inviting others to play and those people spend 99 cents for a a sprinkle candy . . . and  *breathe*  . . . before you know it, King Games has made King Money.

So, in a nutshell, enjoy the game, but remember where the real world is and how to get back to it. Because if you don’t, then your brain just might be “tasty” or “delicious!”

P.S. If you want my advice, don’t ever listen to the tips (flashing candies), they just waste your moves. Argh!

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