“Lean on me when you’re not strong, and I’ll be your friend, I’ll help you carry on. For it won’t be long, ‘Til I’m gonna need somebody to lean on.”
Bill Withers ~ Lean on Me
Everyone has dreams, goals; things that drive them or help them to have a purpose in life. For some of us, its our children or careers, for others its making money or helping to create a better world. Regardless of one’s focus, the question I put to you is this; do we need a support system, someone who believes in you, to get there? Its certainly important to have self confidence and believe in your own dreams, but is that enough? Or do we truly need an objective set of eyes or an external voice that supports and encourages us to press on?
I started considering this today when I saw a video featuring Mitt Romney’s wife, Ann. Now hold the phone friends and keep reading, this will not become a political discussion.
Ann was eloquent of course in the video, but what hit me hardest is how much she believes in Mitt. How much she (at least publicly) supports his dreams and goals to become president. It is obvious from looking back through archives of videos that she has supported him from the start of his political career. If you look at Obama, Michelle has also supported her husband from the start. So, my question goes to the character of people. Not just politicians, but people in general that support other people, especially spouses.
Whether it’s a man married to a woman, a girlfriend who supports her boyfriend, a man who supports his partner or a woman who supports hers… it really comes down to the core of us as people. Love does not know genders, ages or race, not real love anyway.
What it truly boils down to is the love of one another and the respect that comes with that. The need for us to support each other as humans, as people and as individuals with individual dreams and goals. We all deserve a chance to be more than our inner workings. A chance to step outside of our designed box and have a moment in the light.
What does a person (politician for example) do when they have the ability and the drive to achieve the impossible – to become president of a county, yet they have a wife who adamantly opposes their dreams? Do they divorce her and find someone that does? What does that say for thier character? Does it ruin their chance of following their dreams and goals? If so, doesn’t that become a catch-22, as people look at their character when trying to achieve such an office? Can you think of a president that made it to office that went through a divorce? No, you can’t. Because only President Reagan was a divorcee (long before he became president).
The idea of that necessary support system raises another set of questions. Can someone succeed if they believe in themselves, but those closest to them do not believe or have a desire to believe in them? Does it mean that the person should simply give up? What do you think?